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Found the following article while browsing the shared drive in the office. It's about how to control or manage anger in a hilarious but practical way (kahit papano). The description said it can be applied to almost everyone, whether it's a family member, friends, loved ones, even your better half and most specially people you don't know who can practically destroy your day. It brought some relief to me especially when I get irritated with agents who escalate invalid issues. I specially love item #5 heheheheh *wicked grin*

#1 Ang naunang magalit ang may karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na ng galit niya, tumahimik ka na lang muna.

#2 Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag hindi sumagot o pumatol, titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag-away sa iyo.

#3 Ang taong galit, "bingi". If someone is angry, wala raw pinakikinggan, so don't try to explain dahil wala siyang naririnig kundi ang sarili niya.

#4 Ang taong galit, "abnoy". Because the Lord said when he was crucified, "Father, patawarin mo sila dahil hindi nila alam ang kanilang ginagawa." The modern term for these kind of peopleare 'abnoys', so you better not get angry para wag ka matawag na abnoy.

#5 Finally, you should also know and realize that the people who make your day bad are jewels, because you need them for you to mature. Hangga't andyan daw sila at kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin immature ka pa. God will not take away these people; it's for you to take away your bad feelings towards them. You'll know na mature ka na pag dumating na yung time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga taong ito because you have learned to accept them and to have patience with them. The best part is to tell yourself na, because of the person, "I will mature", and that DAHIL SA CONTRIBUTION NYA SA MATURITY MO, KUKUNIN DIN SIYA NI LORD.

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.

She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.

She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

 Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

"Basically," she nodded, then leant over, one green eye shining brightly, one brown eye gleaming dully. "A mortal can drive himself mad thinking about the nature of the universal puzzle. Concern yourself only with the problems of the present and you will get along fine."

- Evanna, Chapter 11, Book 10, Vampire

"The death of somebody you love is the second worst thing in world," Truska said softly. "Worst thing is letting it hurt you so much that you die too - inside. Larten's dead and I am sad for him, but if you go on as you are being, I will be sadder for you, because you will be dead too, even though your body lives."

- Truska to Darren Shan, Chapter 11, Book 10, Vampire